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The Ten Golden Rules of Success



A Profile of the Prophet Muhammad Strategy for Success


Dr. Yahia Abdul-Rahman


A Jumaa Khutbah at Masjid of Brighter Horizons Academy - Richardson - Texas





The Recipe for Success - Kamal el-Mekki



بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

"لقد من الله على المؤمنين اذ بعث فيهم رسولا من أنفسهم يتلو عليهم آياته و يزكيهم و يعلمهم الكتاب و الحكمة و ان كانوا من قبل لفى ضلال مبين" سورة 3 آية 164



One of the most important aspects of our faith Islam is to understand, deeply love and most closely emulate the character of the Prophet � MUHAMMAD. This aspect of our faith is manifested when we pronounce Shahada ---It consists of two inseparable parts. That Allah is one and that Prophet Muhammad is His last Prophet and Messenger.

Unfortunately, because of the heat of major challenges facing the Muslims we find that emulating the Prophet (s) stops at trying to copy his image; i.e. the way he looked without focusing on the way he behaved as he applied the Qur�aan to his character and his way of living. Many of us, especially those proclaimed leaders and Imams of the Muslims forget to teach the average Muslim to express his/her love of the Prophet by emulating his character.

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

"لقد كان لكم فى رسول الله أسوة حسنة لمن كان يرجو الله و اليوم الآخر و ذكر الله كثيرا" سورة 33 � آية 21

و عندما سؤلت السيدة عائشة � زوجة الرسول � ص � عن خلقه قالت " كان خلقه القرآن"



Dr. Michael Hart, a recognized author who was raised in a Christian family documented a research on the most influential 100 persons in history and chose the Prophet Muhammad (s) as the MOST INFLUENTIAL MAN in the history of man kind. He wrote and I quote: �Prophet Muhammad was the ONLY man in history who was supremely successful on both religious and secular levels.�

Today, I want to share with you what I call the 10 Golden Character Traits of the Prophet (s) that contributed to the astounding success of his mission as the LAST guide, messenger and prophet to mankind. In doing so, I hope and pray that we all will listen carefully and apply these traits to our way of living and that I will be the first to do so.

Before I do this, I want to define a term that is usually used by many of us; SUCCESS. Many of us think that success is being rich, is being famous and the like. I define success as:

�SUCCESS is The PROGRESSIVE REALIZATION of a WORTHY IDEAL.� Please note that:

� FIRST one has to define a worthy ideal or a worthy goal,

� THEN go about realizing it in steps and in a progressive way.

Maulana Waheddiddin Khan one of the prominent Indian scholars of Islam wrote a wonderful biography of the prophet (s) outlining these 10 Golden rules of his character. I shall cover as many as I can today and continue on with the rest in future Khutba inshaa Allah.

1.  START WITH A HUMBLE BEGINNING - Start from The Possible to Achieve What Seems to Be Impossible:

Many of us develop dreams of doing and accomplishing things be it in community development, business or career. However, many of us also fail. From my observations of human nature, especially those who are intimidated by the success of others I found that the main reason is that people want to grow fast & become big in the shortest period of time. In fact this defies the laws of Allah. It takes time to grow a tree, it takes time to raise a child and it takes time to build things. There is no other way. Yes, we can expedite our progress but we cannot violate the fact that one has to develop experience and learn by starting small. This is exactly the example that was set by the behavior of Prophet Muhammad (s).

عن السيدة عائشة � رضى الله عنها � "ماخير رسول الله � صلى الله عليه و سلم بين أمرين الا و اختار أيسرهما"

So, he started his dawa with what was possible and available to him at the time he was commissioned. He started, as revealed in the Qur�aan with his most immediate family members and the members of his tribe and slowly worked his way out to the rest of Arabia and the world. Remember, that had Allah willed, he would have done it in no time. But because he was the example for people to emulate, it took him 23 years of dedication, patience, perseverance and hard work without asking for recognition, gratification or a word of thanks.

This is exactly how many of the new comers to America built what is today a sprawling and effective network of Masajid, Islamic centers and other institutions. They all started small and slowly became large.

2..EASY DOES IT � Gradualism in Change and NOT Radicalism Produces More Lasting Changes:

Many people think that changing the government through revolutions and violence will help them reach power and hence will allow them to put in place the changes they want to implement. This approach was proven useless and futile by the approach of the Prophet (s) and the by the lessons of history.

As narrated by Aisha and recorded in Saheeh Bukhari, the first verses revealed in the Qur�aan were those mentioning paradise & hell fire. It was not until 15 years later, when people�s hearts had softened, that specific commands to desist from adultery and drinking were revealed in the Qur�aan. Al Sayeda Aisha makes the point that if these commands had been revealed in the beginning; the Arabs would have stoutly refused to give up either adultery or drinking.

This shows that the Islamic Shari�aa � Jurisprudence was built on the principle of gradualism. People�s hearts had first to be touched then their willingness to conform had to become apparent and only then when the prohibitions were introduced.

Implementing the Shari�aa does not mean using the whip or the gun. No good would ever come or has never come of such a practice particularly on an unprepared society.

3. THERE IS EASE IN DIFFICULTY - To See Advantage in Disadvantage:

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

سورة 94 آية 5 ان مع العسر يسرا � ان مع العسر يسرا

Whenever one is faced with a problem he/she never despair. There is always a silver lining that presents itself to the true believers. When a calamity strikes � Musibah � the individual may proceed to follow one of two approaches:

1. The first and most followed approach is to feel down, stressed out, hopeless and completely helpless because they concentrate on the negative part of the difficult problem or dilemma or calamity one is facing. This is the approach of those who are not trained to resort to Allah and His infinite wisdom. They usually fail & are never noticed.

2. The second approach is that of those who believe in God, in the fact that there is always a silver lining to every test of difficulty presented by Allah.

This was the consistent approach of Muhammad (s). We in America faced the same kind of difficulty after 9/11 but those who believe in Allah and have dedicated their life to serving Him have transformed this calamity into a great opportunity to teach America about the true faith of Islam and it is producing results.

4. DO NOT DESPAIR - If All Efforts Fail to Produce Commensurate Results � Change Your Place of Action - EMIGRATE:

In the early days of the Prophet�s mission in Makkah his activities created a lot of antagonism and prompted his enemies � the rulers of Makkah to eliminate him. At this time, the Prophet chose to avoid confrontation and decided to leave quietly to Madina � the Hijrah that changed the course of history.

Hijra was a strategy used by the Prophet to avoid confrontation and take a side step and a new route that will allow him and his companions to build for the future of an Ummah that changed the world. Such a strategic maneuver guaranteed keeping their mission alive until Makkah was opened up and brought within the fold of Islam.

Many of us Muslims, as well as many non-Muslims, are taught that immigration represents simply an event that took place in the life of the Muslims and the Prophet Muhammad (S.) The understanding that we Muslims have of Hijra is that a number of the companions migrated from Makkah to Madina. The implication has the general sense in history of the movement of a primitive or semi-civilized people from one place to another, as a result of geographical or political factors.

But from the tone in which migration is discussed in the Qur�aan, one comes to perceive that migration is a profound philosophical and social principle:

1. Immigration: Offers many opportunities and Vast Resources:

ومن يهاجر فى سبيل الله يجد فى الأرض مراغما كثيرا و سعة

2. Immigration: Is one of the highest levels of Jihad and is rewarded according:

ومن يخرج من بيته مهاجرا الى الله و رسوله ثم يدركه الموت فقد وقع أجره على الله و كان الله غفورا رحيما 4:100

All the 27 civilizations we know of in history � from the most recent civilization of America, to the most ancient that we know of, the civilization of Sumer � came into being on the heels of a migration. In each case, a primitive people remained primitive as long as it stayed in its own land, and attained civilization after undertaking a migration and establishing itself in a new land. All civilizations are, then, born of the migration of primitive peoples.

From this aspect of the character and experience of the Prophet we are urged never to allow ourselves to be enslaved on earth or reach the state of hopelessness. Immigrate.

يوم توفاهم الملائكة ظالمى أنفسهم � قالوا فيما كنتم؟ - قالوا كنا مستضعفين فى الأرض � قالوا ألم تكن أرض الله واسعة فتهاجروا فيها؟

5. TRUST HUMAN NATURE �- MOST PEOPLE ARE BASICALLY GOOD - Challenge Yourself to Make A Friend out of An Enemy:

The Prophet & his companions were exposed to all sorts of insults, provocative language, abuse and torture. At that time the Qur�aan enjoined upon them to return evil deeds with Good ones and adds �

41:34 و لا تستوى الحسنة و لا السيئة ادفع بالتى هى احسن فاذا الذى بينك و بينه عداوة كأنه ولى حميم

From this one can learn that no matter how hostile a person may appear, he/she has a God-given basic nature and instinct for goodness and for truth-loving. So, we � believers in God and followers of Islam � should discipline ourselves as if beneath the surface of this antagonism there lies � may be - a hidden friend. So, the challenge of a true da�iyah Propagator of Islam or submitter is to make a friend out of an enemy.

This is what psychology calls the principle of positive reinforcement. The example of the Prophet and how he handled Ummar Ibn Al Khattab illustrates this aspect of his character. Prophet Muhammad (s) did not � and he never did - ask Allah to destroy all Umar�s assets, take away his powers and make him invalid or to kill him. This is the approach of those who worship Allah as slaves � as Imam Ali said. The approach of the Prophet (s) was that of those who worship Allah as free dignified people who want to make a difference in the world. He used to make a du�aa to Allah: Ya Allah � the ONLY ONE who can change peoples� hearts � I ask you to change the heart of Omar and make him use your gifts of power, wealth, assets and connections for the benefit of Islam and the Muslims.

I sincerely pray that each one of us and our offspring will follow the same example of wishing to build and never wishing to destroy.

BE WISE and USE THE THIRD OPTION � Do Not Throw Yourself & Your assets in Harms Way: The Misinterpreted Way of Life & Style of Living & Action of the Prophet

6. Plan & Prepare While Exercising Restraint: Never Act in Haste and Without Being Prepared with A Long Range Strategic Plan, specific goals, the resources to execute the plan, most important of which are the qualified and trained dedicated teams.

There is a commonly used saying (hadeeth) of the Prophet, which was related by Tirmidhi, Nisai and Abu Daud, and is used, I believe wrongly by some, to encourage Muslims to be violent and fight instead of planning ahead to develop their communities to prosperity in order to build their strength that will allow them to defend themselves.

The hadeeth says:

�One killed in defense of his property is a martyr, one killed in defense of his life is a martyr, and one killed in defense of his family is a martyr.�

If one reads the hadeeth carefully one can see clearly that it talks about being killed and not fighting as such. The Prophet (s) did not mean that whenever there is a threat to one�s property, life, religion or family, one should immediately resort to arms, even if one is slain as a result! One, who takes the hadeeth superficially, as some misinformed Muslims do these days, will say that is not true! Islam teaches one to stand up for one�s property and rights like a man; it urges one to fight in defense of one�s faith, one�s life and property, one�s family and relatives. If one is victorious, then one has achieved one�s end; and if one is defeated, then one is a martyr شهيد. Many Islamic movements applied this understanding and unfortunately the result was devastating: The 20th Century has seen grand �Islamic� revolutionary movements, great �holy wars� in the Muslim world without any significant positive results. Here is a sample of the cost:

� 2.5 million dead in the Algerian War of Liberation and independence,

� 500,000 to 3 million martyrs in civil war to create Bangladesh,

� 10 million lives lost in the formation of the Muslim state of Pakistan, and

� Millions of people who died for Islam in Egypt, Iran, Iraq, Palestine, Syria, Yemen and various other countries.

But if one is a true believer in God, his Prophets, Prophet Muhammad (s) and the hereafter, he/she will look at the situation analytically and with wisdom. With intense mind-searching he�ll ask himself: If it is really true that Muslims should jump and fight at the earliest confrontation, then one should also ask:

If this were the case why then the Prophet (s) in the first 14 years of Islam did not do that? He did not even respond to those who attacked him and the early Muslim companions.

Here are Some Examples that indicate that losses must be endured for the sake of greater gains:

1.1. Suhaib Al-Rumi Immigration to Medina: When Suhaib, who came from the Roman Empire, announced his intention to immigrate, the masters of Makkah told him that you came to us with nothing and you became rich because you dealt with us. Do you think we will let you go with your wealth? Suhaib said: you can take my wealth and he left all behind. When the Prophet (s) heard of this incident he said Good for Suhaib, he made a real profitable deal. If the hadeeth meant what others claim then the Prophet should have told him to fight for that wealth! The Prophet, who had a vision a better future and a long-term plan, did not order Suhaib to fight back and become a Martyr.

1.2. Abu-Jandal in the Year 6 H: After the Treaty of Hudaybi�ya, which stipulated that if a member of the idolaters� tribes accepts Islam he should be sent back to them, Abu-Jandal, a member of Quraysh accepted Islam and reached the camp of the Muslims in chains and in blood. He pleaded to the Muslims to not send him back to the pagan idolaters as the treaty stipulated. The Prophet (s) stood by the treaty and sent him back. He told Abu-Jandal: Be Patient. God will grant you, and those persecuted with you, release from your suffering.�

1.3. One of the Treaty of Hudaibiyah promises was to honor Quraysh, the ruling family of the peninsula at that time, demand to restrict Muslims from visiting the Kaaba, the first house ever built by man to worship God, to perform Umrah for two years. He acted on divine inspiration and accepted to return back with the expedition without performing Umra. Others would have used this occasion to fight till death as people claim the hadeeth meant.

1.4. Ammar ibn Yassir and his Parents were slaves working for the Banu Makhzoom tribe. He accepted Islam. In an effort to force him to change his mind, they would torture him by taking him in the heat of the desert at noon time and make him lay down on the hot blazing sand and torture him. They even killed his mother to force him to reject Islam. Relating to this incident the Prophet�s reaction was different from what others may lead you to believe from the hadeeth (as related by the Prophet�s biographer ibn Hisham: � When the Prophet passed by, from what I have heard, he would say to them: �be patient, family of Yassir, heaven is your promised land.�

The consideration that should be uppermost in the believer�s mind is what served the interests of the Almighty God Allah and Islam, not his own personal interests and settling one�s accounts by force. The preoccupation must be with the preaching of the message of Islam: If there is a clash between personal interests and the long range interests of preaching Islam, then preaching of the faith must come first.

The Prophet, who endured all kinds of personal losses in his life, knew that to insure the continuation of efforts to spread the faith and of serving God Allah, knew that the Muslims� success in this life and the next lay in their pressing on with the missionary work.

It is important to know that when one has a purpose in life, that purpose assumes overriding importance. With the absence of such purpose, one becomes pre-occupied with every trivial matter. On the other hand those, whose purpose is to propagate the faith, avoid clashing with others on any issue, for this would be detrimental to the ultimate purpose of our ultimate mission.

7. Seek PEACE � The Power of Peace is By Far Stronger & Effective than the Turbulence of Violence:

One of the most important lessons one can derive from the Prophet�s character is that he always wanted a peaceful environment because he believed that the power of peace enhances efforts to bring God in peoples� lives and is stronger and more lasting than the havoc and turbulence of violence. When he signed the treaty of Hudaybiya, he effectively started a new era of peace for the Muslims. The treaty allowed the Muslims to intermingle with the rest of the pagan idolaters� of Makkans in peace instead of being looked upon by the Makkan idolaters as a threat. It is reported that the number of those who accepted Islam was 10 times the number of the Muslims that came to fold in over 19 years. After conquering Makkah he and the Muslims became the rulers of many of the same people who tortured them, killed their family members and companions and confiscated their properties. These people were undeniably war criminals who expected to be put to death immediately. Yet the Prophet did not utter one word of blame. He said:� go you are all set free.�

This superior civilized gesture demonstrated the superiority of peace over violence and the forgiving nature of those who love and serve God. The result was the immediate acceptance of Islam by those very people who attacked its followers. In the long-tern Islam captured the imagination of the world.

8. CAPITALIZE ON THE POSITIVE � Turn Liabilities into Assets � See Advantage in Disadvantage � Making the Best out of Ones Enemy

After the battle of Badr, about 70 of the enemy were taken prisoners. All of them were highly educated Makkans. They represented a tremendous liability to the Muslims because of their lifestyle and the resources necessary to keep them. In an effort to turn this liability into great assets, the Prophet (s) announced that any of these war criminals who were willing to teach ten children of Madina how to read and write would be freed. These services were taken instead of collecting ransom money. This was the first school in history of Islam in which all of the students were Muslims, and all of the teachers were from the ranks of the enemy.

9. BE REALISTIC � Pragmatism Instead of Idealism Leads to Success Slow Change �

First Hajj after Conquering Makkah:

فاصبر صبرا جميلا - انهم يرونه بعيدا و نراه قريبا --- المعرج سورة 70 آية 5 و 6

لتبلون فى أموالكم و أنفسكم و لتسمعن من الذين أوتوا الكتاب و من الذين أشركوا أذى كثيرا و ان تصبروا و تتقوا فان ذلك من عزم الأمور --- سورة آل عمران رقم 3 آية 186



In the time of Prophet Abraham, Hajj � Pilgrimage - was performed in the lunar month of Zul-hijjah. Since the lunar year is 11 days shorter than a solar year, its months do not revolve with the seasons. This went against the commercial interests of Quraysh. They wanted hajj to fall in the summer each year, and for this purpose they adopted a method called Nasi�eeالنسىء. This consisted of adding 11 days on to the lunar calendar every year. They kept the names of the lunar months but in fact they followed a solar calendar. That meant that Hajj would fall in the proper date once every 33 years. In order to reset the Abrahamic traditions, the Prophet had to end this tradition. He could have issued a decree to change all that in the month of Ramadan, 8 AH when Makkah was opened up.

Instead, he bided his time. There were just 2 years left until the completion of the full 33-year course of Nasi�ee. He waited for those 2 years. Although he was the leader who prevailed over the pagans, he did not perform Hajj in these 2 years. Only in the 3rd year (10 AH) did he participate in the pilgrimage. This was the farewell pilgrimage and the year the record was set straight as put by Abraham as he announced: �time has run its full course.�

The Prophet entire policy was molded by the wisdom gifted to him by God. His every move was designed to be in accordance with the pattern set by God. IT WAS FOR THIS REASON THAT ALL HIS EFFORTS AND POLICIES PRODUCED HIGHLY FRUITFUL RESULTS.

10. BRING THE MISSIONARY STRUGGLE TO FRUITION BY REDEPLOYING EFFORTS AND RESOURCES IN OTHER FIELDS WHERE POSITIVE RESULTS MAY BE EXPECTED.

The Prophet was attacked by Makkans after migrating to Madinah. He proceeded to prepare to establish defense forces but he did not focus only on the field of military action. His strategy called for:

i. Establishing the Muslim community as the standard of excellence in dealing, in societal relations, in justice and in finance to the extent that Muslims became � in a very short period of time � the most trusted merchants who ran free markets for the first time in Madinah.

ii. Becoming the trusted arbiters and peace makers amongst warring tribes, and

iii. Becoming the trusted financiers and money managers of Madinah

iv. Striving for a peace treaty with the Makkans in order to change the subject or the field of action.

Until the peace treaty of Hudaibiyah was signed, the only meeting ground between the Muslims and non-Muslims had been on the battlefield. Now, with the peace treaty, the area of conflict became that of ideological debate and behavioral contrast. Then, the one- time enemies began interacting with each other on a large scale. During this period of interaction, the ideological maturity and excellence of Islam and the Muslims asserted itself. As a result, large numbers of the former enemies of Islam became Muslims. In this way, the number of Muslims increased. Ultimately the Muslims started occupying high level positions of influence � solely on the strength of their education, character, respect in the community, sincerity in serving all and their large numbers.

In a very short period of time, Madinah became a producer of food and crops and the preferred stopping stations of the trading caravans. It simply became the model of the First Ummah in the history of mankind. That is why its name was changed from Yathrib to Madinah or the Civilized City.

The believers are repeatedly motivated to bring their missionary struggle to fruition by redeploying their efforts and resources in other fields where positive results may be expected.



ماكان محمد أبا أحد من رجالكم و لكن رسول الله و خاتم النبيين و كان الله بكل شىء عليما" ا�



Prophet Muhammad received the mission on approx. February 12th, 610 AD. He was the last and the seal of all Prophet (33:40)

His preaching mission extended over 23 years. Prophet Muhammad was entrusted with propagating God�s words & message to others. It was this role that brought him on a collision course with his fellow country men and women. All forms of adversity � from the pain of hunger to the trepidation of battle � were inflicted on him. Yet through the 23 years of his mission, he always remained just and circumspect in his actions. His conduct was governed by his fear of displeasing God. During this mission he changed the history of Arabia & laid the foundation for a permanent change in world history.

Within 100 years this revolution has caused the decline and then the vanquishing of the Persian Sassanian and the Byzantine Empires. Islam swept through

From Iran and Iraq to Bukhara, Uzbekistan in the east,

Syria, Palestine, Egypt and then North Africa to the West.

We need to listen, read, study, reflect, apply and emulate these 10 Golden Character traits of our beloved Prophet Muhammad in order to start our journ6/8/2007 12:30:58 PMey � Yes, Long Journey � towards capturing the imagination of our children, our families, our communities, our nation and the world exactly as he (s) did,

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