The strangest things have been happening to you lately and you have no idea why.
Suddenly, you feel you live in a fishbowl where your every move is watched,
where you are being studied from afar and from close by, where your taste in
clothes, music, food, books, art, etc., is being analyzed, where your
"Muslim-ness" is of concern to people, and where you, my friend, can choose to
either sink or swim.
It was not always like this, but, regrettably, you are growing up at a time when
the most commonly used terms to describe your religion and people who belong to
your religion range from backward, anti-progress, and oppressive to extremists,
fundamentalists, and violence-prone. The idiom "sticks and stones may break my
bones, but words will never hurt me" is false, because words do hurt and
sometimes the sting of words remains long after the physical wounds, from an
assault by sticks or stones, have healed.
With every major conflict in the world today being of direct or semi-direct
concern to Muslims, life seemingly will get a lot worse before it gets better.
Will you continue to identify yourself with Muslims? So what will it be? Will
you sink or will you swim against the tide of negativity being directed at Islam
Be Proud, and If and When Needed, Say It Out Loud
You know that the safest and least painful path these days seems to be to just
"blend" into the crowd and not to stick out or be identified as a Muslim. Well,
that might be easier and more manageable for the young men who have not yet
matured enough to have facial hair and can really blend with a baseball cap on
backwards, baggy jeans drooping, and sports jerseys.
But is that really a solution? Is it even fair to our young sisters who wear
hijab and are, therefore, recognized as Muslims from the moment an onlooker is
able to discern the head covering? And perhaps it would be idealistic to say
that all young women wear the hijab, and so, it is just as possible that those
women who do not wear the hijab can and do blend in by, well, wearing whatever
it is that the non-Muslims are wearing, imitating their hairstyles, and applying
makeup like them. Let's be clear that blending in to the point of being unable
to be discerned as a Muslim is not an acceptable option for us.
So what happens when people know that you are a Muslim? Nothing needs to happen
really, other than the fact that you have the internal pride in admitting to
yourself and to everyone else around you that you are a Muslim; not just as a
slogan, but because of your beliefs, your practice, your character, and, most of
all, your inclination to be of service to Allah by serving others.
We are reminded in the Qur'an by Allah Almighty who distinguishes between
believers, stating, ["and who is better in speech than one who calls (people) to
Allah, works righteousness, and says, "I am of those who bow in Islam?"]
It is important that we study this verse, especially in the context of living in
the West, among mostly people of faiths other than Islam. The main point here is
the conversation, the dialogue that will take place more and more often between
you and young people of other faiths or adults of other faiths. As we noted
above, among young people and adults alike, there has been constant and
consistent pressure to condemn the actions of those fringe Muslims who choose to
commit acts of violence and terror in the name of Islam.
Don't Shy Away
Regrettably, along the way of condemning these acts that violate the teachings
of Islam, some of us find it difficult to maintain an attachment to the
religion. We opt instead to shy away from admitting to being a Muslim. This
shyness comes in various forms. One might be fasting during Ramadan and be
offered food by a non-Muslim. The best response, in the spirit of calling people
to Allah, meaning, informing people about the teachings of Islam, would be to
say, "No, thank you. I am fasting."
Regrettably, more often than not, the response from young Muslims is "No,
thanks." Period. No further conversation, no dialogue, no indication that a
spiritual experience is in progress via a day of fasting. Such a response yields
no further potential for informing others about our faith and of the beautiful
and life-transforming experience of fasting.
With more and more people becoming familiar with Islam and Islamic teachings,
there is a chance, however, that the inquisitive person is likely to ask, "Are
you fasting?" Or if the person knows that Muslims fast but is unsure that you
are a Muslim, he or she might say, "Oh, I didn't know you were Muslim." Or if
the person is unsure what it means to fast, he or she might ask, "What is
fasting?" No matter what, the goal should be some level of interaction to
increase the exposure and understanding of other people about Islam and Muslims.
With each day, a new event unfolds on the international stage, and by the will
and plan of Allah, Muslims are almost always being implicated as the main
actors, supporters, or sympathizers.
As young people, you will bear the brunt of the ambassadorial responsibilities
of bridging the gap between Muslims and people of other faiths. We need you to
be knowledgeable of Islam, to be strong in your faith, to be proud of your
Islamic tradition, and to be articulate in your presentation of Islam. You do
not have the choice, nor can the Muslim community afford, to shy away or worse
yet feel as if you want to hide your Islamic identity.
With the help and guidance of Allah, in shaa Allah, you will help to integrate
Islamic teachings into your life and be proud to say to people for example, "I
am fasting because it is a part of my religious teachings," or "I wear hijab
because I am asked to do so by my Lord," and "I pray five times a day because I
am asked to do so by my Lord and because Prayer helps me maintain a close
relationship with my Lord."
The key here is not to lose heart, not to fear the blame of other people as they
continue to associate violence and other false notions with Islam. Be confident
in what you believe, who you are, and that you are on earth to serve Allah by
serving the society in which you live. We make duaa for every one of you in shaa
Allah to be among those described in the verse, [and who is better in speech
than one who calls (people) to Allah, works righteousness, and says, "I am of
those who bow in Islam?"] (Fussilat 41:33)