I know a good Muslim brother who is 83 years old. He has been serving Islam for the past 30 years. Unfortunately, he is living with his youngest son, and his daughter-in-law. He loves his three grandchildren; he can't get away from his grandchildren. He is sick with many old-age diseases. The problem is his son and his daughter in law treats him extremely bad. His son and daughter-in-law live the "good" western life. This ungrateful son curses, insults, and humiliates the old father in the worst possible way. Many times, this son calls his father "you worthless old sick man, why don't you die instead of bothering us with your sickness, and lack of money?" The daughter-in-law screams at him every time the kids make a mess in the house, such as throwing cookies on the carpet or spilling food on the floor. The old man is expected to rush and clean the carpet right away.
I know this old brother; he is the kind of Muslim that took very good care of his family, when he was young and working. All that he wants now is to stay with his grandchildren. He buys them presents with his very small pension, goes to mosque and prays. His son and his daughter-in-law should leave him alone without cursing, screaming, and humiliating him.
Is that too much to ask to have some mercy and respect?
This brother is now dead. He was great Muslim, and a very dear brother. May Allah SWT grant
him AlFerous Alaa, and grant me his compay in Paradise.
An Order from Allah:
وَقَضَى رَبُّكَ أَلاَّ تَعْبُدُواْ إِلاَّ
إِيَّـهُ وَبِالْوَلِدَيْنِ إِحْسَـناً إِمَّا يَبْلُغَنَّ عِندَكَ
الْكِبَرَ أَحَدُهُمَا أَوْ كِلاَهُمَا فَلاَ تَقُل لَّهُمَآ أُفٍّ
وَلاَ تَنْهَرْهُمَا وَقُل لَّهُمَا قَوْلاً كَرِيمًا - وَاخْفِضْ
لَهُمَا جَنَاحَ الذُّلِّ مِنَ الرَّحْمَةِ وَقُل رَّبِّ ارْحَمْهُمَا
كَمَا رَبَّيَانِى صَغِيرًا
�And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of disrespect, nor reprimand them but address them in terms of honor. And lower unto them the wing of submission and humility through mercy, and say: "My Lord! Bestow on them Your mercy as they did bring me up when I was young.'' [Surah: Bani Isra�il (17); Ayah 23 , 24]
What the Quran says regarding parents?
[4. Surah An-Nisaa : Ayah 69]
And whoever obeys Allah and the Apostle, these are with those upon whom Allah has bestowed favors from among the prophets and the truthful and the martyrs and the good, and a goodly company are they.
[4.Surah An-Nisaa : Ayah 36]
"And serve Allah and do not associate any thing with Him and be good to the parents and to the near of kin and the orphans and the needy and the neighbor of (your) kin and the alien neighbor, and the companion in a journey and the wayfarer and those whom your right hands possess; surely Allah does not love him who is proud, boastful."
[6.Surah Al-An'am : Ayah 151]
"Show kindness to your parents, and do not slay your children for (fear of) poverty-- We provide for you and for them."
[17.Surah Bani Israel : Ayah 23-24]
"And your Lord has commanded that you shall not serve (any) but Him, and goodness to your parents. If either or both of them reach old age with you, say not to them (so much as) "Ugh" nor chide them, and speak to them a generous word."
"And make yourself submissively gentle to them with compassion, and say: O my Lord! have compassion on them, as they brought me up (when I was) little."
[27. Surah An Naml: Ayah : 19]
"O my Lord! so order me that I may be grateful for Thy favours, which thou hast bestowed on me and on my parents, and that I may work the righteousness that will please Thee: And admit me, by Thy Grace, to the ranks of Thy righteous Servants."
[29.Surah Al-Ankabut : Ayah 8]
"And We have enjoined on man goodness to his parents, and if they contend with you that you should associate (others) with Me, of which you have no knowledge, do not obey them, to Me is your return, so I will inform you of what you did."
[31.Surah Luqman : Ayah 14]
"And We have enjoined man in respect of his parents,...Be grateful to Me and to both your parents; to Me is the eventual coming."
[46.Surah Al-Ahqaf : Ayah 15]
"And We have enjoined on man doing of good to his parents; with trouble did his mother bear him and with trouble did she bring him forth; and the bearing of him and the weaning of him was thirty months."
"My Lord! grant me that I should be grateful for Thy favor which Thou hast bestowed on me and on my parents, and that I should do good such as Thou art pleased with, and make me enter, by Thy mercy, into Thy servants, the good ones."
A man came to Allah's Messenger and said, "O Allah's Apostle! Who is more entitled to be treated with the best companionship by me?"
The Prophet said, "Your mother." The man said. "Who is next?"
The Prophet said, "Your mother." The man further said, "Who is next?"
The Prophet said, "Your mother." The man asked for the fourth time, "Who is next?"
The Prophet said, "Your father."
---- (Sahih Al-Bukhari Vol. 8: No. 2 Narrated by 'Abu Hurairah)
A little boy went to his mother in the kitchen one evening while she was fixing supper, and handed her a piece of paper that he had been writing on.
After his Mom dried her hands on an apron, she read it, and this is what it said:
For cutting the grass: $ 5.00
For cleaning up my room this week: $1.00
For going to the store for you: $.50
Baby-sitting my kid brother while you went shopping: $.25
Taking out the garbage: $1.00
For getting a good report card: $ 5.00
For cleaning up and raking the yard: $2.00
Total owed: $ 14.75
Well, his mother looked at him standing there, and the boy could see the memories flashing through her mind. She picked up the pen, turned over the paper he'd written on, and this is what she wrote:
For the 9-months I carried you while you were growing inside me:
For all the nights that I've sat up with you, doctored and prayed for you:
For all the trying times, and all the tears that you've caused through the years:
For all the nights that were filled with dread, and for the worries I knew were ahead:
For the toys, food, clothes, and even wiping your nose:
Son, when you add it up, the cost of my love is:
When the boy finished reading what his mother had written, there were big tears in his eyes, and he looked straight at his mother and said, "Mom, I sure do love you." And then he took the pen and in great big letters he wrote:
"PAID IN FULL".
You will never know how much your parents are worth till you become a Parent.
Be a giver not an asker, especially with your parents. There is a lot to give, other than money.
IF your mom is alive and close to you give her big kisses and ask her for forgiveness.
If she is far away, call her.
If she has passed away, pray for her.
Poem by Mohammed Ayub
My Mother, My Paradise
She served me until this day
Her love the sun, mine a ray
She lost sleep for me to dream
She left food, for me to be fed
Of mind and body she suffered
Her love grew as me she carried
I kicked at her bosom when an infant
Yet she held me without being hesitant
She inspired my legs and taught me to walk
All the words I pronounced listening to her talk
'Hasbi Rabbi' she sang in my ears, (such that)-
'Noor Muhammad' shone all these years (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam)
All my acts of worship are but under her feet
But three worlds I need to show her respect
If this son were to enter paradise
The warmth of her feet would be the cause
Her prayers for me are sincere than my own
She bore all the pain to see me so far grown
The pleasure of my Lord
Is in doing to her good
Even as I laid in her womb
Or be buried in the tomb-
She will continue to pour love
And pray for me forever�
If His Mercy is the entrance-
She is the key to my paradise!